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Jessica DeYoung

March 18, 2025

Share testimony with kids in a way that feels safe and clear

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Share testimony with kids in a way that feels safe and clear Can I tell you something? Most moms don’t struggle because they don’t have a story. We struggle because we don’t know how to share testimony with kids without either saying too much or sa

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Share testimony with kids in a way that feels safe and clear

Can I tell you something? Most moms don’t struggle because they don’t have a story. We struggle because we don’t know how to share testimony with kids without either saying too much or saying nothing at all.

And I get it. You want to be honest. You also want your kids to feel safe. You want them to hear hope, not details they can’t carry yet.

So let’s make this simple. When you share testimony with kids, you’re not handing them every chapter. You’re giving them a steady, grace-filled headline, “Jesus met me, Jesus changed me, and Jesus is with us.” That’s the goal. Not over-sharing. Not hiding. Discernment and love.

What does it mean to share testimony with kids?

When we talk about testimony, we usually think stage, microphone, big dramatic moment. But most of the time, testimony is just being willing to say, “Here’s where God met me.”

And with kids, it gets even more tender. Because they’re not an audience. They’re our babies. Even when they’re teenagers.

So when you share testimony with kids, think of it like this: you’re building a family culture where God is real in everyday life. You’re giving them language for grace. You’re showing them that faith isn’t pretending. It’s trusting.

Your kids don’t need every detail

I’ve learned this the hard way. Sometimes we think being “real” means telling everything. It doesn’t. There are times to speak and times to wait. Being bold is about obedience, not over-sharing.

One of the kindest things you can do for your kids is to filter your story through wisdom. You can be truthful without being graphic. You can be vulnerable without making them your counselor.

Your kids do need the hope

Here’s what children carry well: who God is, what God is like, and what God does when we ask Him for help.

They can hold, “Mom used to be afraid, and Jesus helped her.” They can hold, “Dad made mistakes, and God forgave him, and now our home looks different.”

That’s testimony. And it builds trust.

How do I share testimony with kids without oversharing?

Does this sound familiar? You start telling a story and halfway through you think, “Wait. Should I say that?”

Friend, pause. You’re not failing. You’re parenting in real time.

Here’s the framework I come back to when I want to share testimony with kids in a way that’s safe.

Use the “headline, not the whole book” approach

Kids don’t need your whole timeline. They need a clear headline and a clear ending.

Try this simple pattern (and yes, it can be this simple):

  • What was hard (one sentence)
  • What God did (one or two sentences)
  • What’s different now (one sentence)

This keeps the focus where it belongs, on Jesus, on growth, and on hope. It also helps you share testimony with kids without wandering into details that aren’t for them yet.

Ask, “Is my heart healed enough to share this part?”

This is gentle, but it matters. Sometimes we want to rush ahead, but healing in secret often comes before speaking in public.

If a part of your story still feels raw, that doesn’t mean you’re behind. It may just mean that part is still between you and Jesus (and maybe a trusted adult, counselor, or close friend).

Your kids can’t carry what you haven’t processed. And they shouldn’t have to.

Let Colossians 4:6 shape your tone

Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.” (CSB)

I love that, because it reminds me that grace is the atmosphere. Not intensity. Not shock value. Grace.

When you share testimony with kids, you can be honest and still be gracious. You can tell the truth and still keep it “seasoned with salt.” Clear. Wise. Kind.

How do I share testimony with kids at different ages?

Let’s get practical. Age-appropriate doesn’t mean secretive. It means filtered through love and maturity.

And just so you know, it’s okay if two kids in the same house need different versions of the story. Grace isn’t sameness. It’s meeting each person with what they need.

Sharing with preschool and early elementary (ages 3-7)

At this age, keep it short. Very short. Think simple and concrete.

What they can understand:

  • God loves our family
  • God helps us when we’re scared
  • God forgives when we mess up

Sample scripts you can borrow:

  • “Mommy used to get worried a lot. Jesus helps me feel calm. Want to pray with me?”
  • “Daddy made a mistake once. God forgave him. And we’re learning to do things God’s way now.”
  • “God helped our family when things were hard. He didn’t leave us.”

This is how you share testimony with kids at this age, you connect it to God’s character and invite them into a simple response.

Sharing with older elementary (ages 8-11)

Kids in this stage ask better questions. They notice patterns. They can handle a little more detail, but they still need safety.

Now you can add a little “why” and a little “what I learned.”

  • “I didn’t know how to handle big feelings. God taught me to pause and pray.”
  • “I used to try to be perfect. God showed me I can be honest, and He still loves me.”

And here’s a helpful move, invite them to share too. Not as a performance. Just connection.

“What’s something God helped you with this week?”

Sharing with teens (ages 12-18)

Teenagers can smell fake. Quickly. They’re also forming their own faith, which means they need real stories, real humility, and real boundaries.

With teens, when you share testimony with kids, it often sounds like:

  • “Here’s what happened.”
  • “Here’s what I felt.”
  • “Here’s what I chose.”
  • “Here’s what God did.”
  • “Here’s what I’d do differently now.”

You still don’t need to tell everything. Discernment matters.

But you can be more direct about the lesson and the fruit. Teens respect ownership. They trust repentance more than perfection.

And sometimes the strongest testimony you can give your teen is this sentence: “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Can we pray?”

What should I include when I share testimony with kids?

Let me make this feel doable. If you want a simple checklist, here it is. Not for pressure. Just for clarity.

Include God’s presence, not just the problem

One reason testimonies are so encouraging is that they remind us we’re not alone. In community, stories build courage and connection.

Your home is a community too. Your kids need to hear where God showed up, not just what went wrong.

Try phrases like:

  • “God gave me strength.”
  • “God provided help.”
  • “God comforted me.”
  • “God corrected me, and it was loving.”

Include the ordinary moments

I love big miracle stories. But most of our kids are shaped by the small moments.

A whispered prayer at the coffee maker. A breath in the car line. A quick “Lord, help me love them like you do,” when someone’s arguing over breakfast.

That counts. That’s real faith. And it teaches kids that God is present on normal days, not just crisis days.

Include what changed in you

Kids learn through contrast. Not dramatic contrast. Just honest contrast.

“I used to react fast. Now I’m learning to pause.”

“I used to hide when I messed up. Now I’m learning to bring it into the light.”

When we’re honest about growth, we show them what repentance looks like in real life. And we show them there’s always room to start again.

Practical moments to share testimony with kids in everyday life

You don’t need a big “sit down, kids” moment every time. Sometimes the best way to share testimony with kids is in passing, when life is already happening.

At the dinner table

Ask simple questions, highs and lows, where did you see God help you today?

And you go first. Keep it short. Let them see what it looks like to notice God.

On the way to school

Car conversations are gold. No eye contact pressure. Just side-by-side.

One of my favorite lines is, “How was your heart today?” not just “How was school?”

That question opens doors.

After you mess up

This one is underrated. And it’s powerful.

When you lose your patience or say something sharp, you get to model repair. That’s testimony too. The gospel shines best on imperfect days.

Try this:

  • “I was wrong to speak like that.”
  • “Will you forgive me?”
  • “Let’s ask Jesus to help me do better next time.”

This is one of the most trustworthy ways to share testimony with kids because they see it in real time.

When your story includes hard chapters

Some stories are simple. Some stories have chapters we’d rewrite.

If that’s you, breathe. Your story can still be shared with wisdom and peace. The goal is not to relive pain. It’s to let Jesus’s love tell the loudest part of the story.

Decide what is “kid-appropriate” versus “adult-only”

Here are a few questions I’ve learned to pray through when I’m deciding how to share (and yes, this applies at home too):

  • “What does God want to communicate through this story?”
  • “Do they need all the details or just the hope?”
  • “Am I willing to trust God with the outcome?”

Sometimes your kids need the headline. Sometimes they need nothing yet. And that’s okay.

Keep the focus on safety and stability

If you’re sharing a hard chapter, make sure your child hears this clearly:

  • You are safe
  • You are loved
  • God is with our family
  • We have help and support

That’s how we share testimony with kids without handing them adult weight.

A simple plan to share testimony with kids this week

If you want a next step that isn’t overwhelming, try this. One small story. One small moment. That’s it.

  1. Pick one testimony moment that is hopeful and settled in your heart.
  2. Write the headline in one sentence (keep it clear).
  3. Share it during a normal moment, dinner, car line, bedtime.
  4. Ask a gentle question, “Have you ever felt that way?”
  5. Pray a 10-second prayer together.

Start small. Testimonies don’t have to be loud to matter.

And friend, if you try this and it feels awkward, you’re normal. Try again. We’re learning.

When you share testimony with kids, you’re not giving them a perfect parent. You’re giving them a picture of a real God who forgives, leads, and stays close.

That’s the story that changes a family.

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